In it for the long haul or just ?

I think you are right to trust your intuition. Four weeks is far too quick to be in love, or sure you want marriage. Words really are cheap, and he is saying all the right ones. He seems almost to be tailoring the words to be exactly what you want. What woman wouldn't want a man who says he'll can provide everything, but is happy for her to work or not as she pleases? It's way too picture-perfect, way too soon. I'm not saying he's definitely lying or manipulating you, but I think it's very wise to be cautious. He keeps telling you he's happy to wait for physical intimacy, and yet he keeps pushing it at the same time. I'm afraid that makes me a bit suspicious. Telling you exactly what you want to hear, and will make you feel loving and trusting, while asking for . It's just a bit convenient. You might want to try saying that you feel that you need to be secure in a very long-term relationship, or even marriage, before you can consider , and seeing if that changes anything. I think a guy who really was falling in love with you would deal with that (if you love someone, it's well worth a wait to get them) and if not, then you have your answer. Even if you dont want to test him like that, I do think you are wise to proceed slowly and cautiously.